CathyT wrote:So - update if anyone is interested. I bought my new flute. It is a Yamaha 'Plutus' with an embarrassing gold plate around the embouchure (which seems to impress everyone else). Any thoughts on this feature?
CathyT wrote:Anyway, not a bad decision, given my budget. All in all I am more comfortable and like the new flute's sound - if nothing else I have an open hole, inline G like 'everyone else' here!
Congrats on the new flute! Spiffy feature, in my experience seems to do more for aesthetics than sound. YMMV. Glad you like the sound and are comfortable with it!
CathyT wrote:
Problem now is that my teacher still hates the way I play - the way I stand, the way I breathe, my embouchure, my little 'natural' vibrato (which I put down to 40 years of smoking). Every lesson and practice session has become agony. All I have in my head now is her voice telling me I'm doing everything wrong. I am 56 and started playing 20 years ago. I achieved a scrape-through Grade 7 and now I'm thinking of giving up (finally seriously, after many times considering it!), because I feel that I'm getting worse, not better (and, at the moment, I'm working very, very hard!).
What to do? A tough decision - you know that need to sing for mental health that people sometimes talk about? I need to soar a bit in music and the flute is my only way of doing that. I'm afraid I do music for me, no one else (although I'm in local orchestra and part of a little troupe that accompanies Renaissance dancers in our village). But I've got to the stage where I'm ashamed of my own voice.
What would you do?
Seriously... As others have posted, get a new teacher ASAP and/or take a break from lessons for a while. In agony is no way to be! A hobby is supposed to be fun... If you're keeping up with what the orchestra and Renaissance troupe are playing/requiring, then keep practicing for those and play for yourself! Nothing wrong with that! Progressing through the grades isn't a destination or the end-all... It just expands the pool of available music to play. (In my opinion.)
Examine what you're trying to do... Are you taking lessons to advance to a point of joining a larger orchestra, or taking lessons for personal fulfillment and a desire to get better in general? Either way, I'm not sure I would stick with an instructor that was constantly negative.
(Disclaimer: I haven't taken lessons in years, kept playing as a hobby but never pursued formal education in flute past high school ~20 years ago. I have taught a few beginning students who moved on to other teachers. I have improved my own playing since stopping lessons through online resources, attending master classes as an audience member, and diversifying into more genres of music.)
Get back to a point of enjoying playing again: let your musical expression soar!